Coma - A Trial for Two Sides
Coma - A Trial for Two Sides
Fear. Uncertainty. Stress. Grief. Frayed nerves. Exhaustion. Anger. Self-pity. Denial. These are but a few of the emotions individuals may experience when a loved one is struggling through the dark days of a coma.
A coma may be defined as a state of unconsciousness for an undetermined length of time. A comatose patient is unaware of his or her surroundings and cannot respond to or even sense the people or environment surrounding him. A number of traumatic brain events may leave a person in a coma, including: a blow to the head, lack of oxygen, a drug overdose, sickness, seizure, or stroke.
Besides the patient, there are other victims of a coma as well: those who love and care for the patient. A coma is not a one-time event. A patient may work through the various stages of a coma for years before he is able to live independently. In truth, a coma survivor will never be quite the same person he was prior to the accident or incident that left him comatose. As the victim works through these stages, family members and loved ones face their own journeys.
When a person suffers an event resulting in a coma, loved ones are immediately transported into a world of uncertainty. “There are no guarantees your loved one will ever regain consciousness.” “We can’t expect that your loved one will ever progress beyond the stage he is right now.” “You cannot expect to ever have your loved one restored to you the way he was before.” These are the kinds of statements a doctor may present to the loved ones of a coma patient. And, in truth, there are no guarantees with a coma. Each coma is different, affecting each patient differently, depending on the area of the brain affected and the severity of the incident.
Though the specifics may vary, there are some things the people close to a coma patient can expect. They will suddenly be faced with the need to devote much more time to the patient, leaving some of their own felt needs and wants unmet. There may be considerable financial strain on the family of a coma victim due to intensive and long-term care and treatment of the patient. They may find themselves trying to help someone who no longer acts rationally, but rather impulsively. A coma victim must typically relearn everything, including such skills as chewing and swallowing, speaking, walking, and, later, more advanced skills such as how to respond emotionally to the events and people around them.
Without a doubt, a coma patient needs the sustained support and unconditional love of those close to him. Without such support, progression through the days, months, and even years of recovery will be even more difficult, if not impossible, for the victim.
The person emerging from a coma must pass through the various stages of grief postulated by Dr. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross. These include: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and, finally, acceptance of the loss one has endured. The people who love and care for a coma patient must pass through those same stages; their loved one will never be the same person he was pre-coma.
A coma is a devastating and traumatic event, both for those who are injured and for their loved ones. With the help, love, and support of those close to him, a coma patient may progress to the point of being able to live independently. Recovery, however, can be a very long process, difficult for patients as well as those who care for them. In the end, both sides must work through the feelings of denial, anger, bargaining, and depression before reaching the point of acceptance of their situation. This is not an easy process, though it is essential.
14.09.2007. 13:24
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